He won’t be changing a flat car tire and telling the security personnel he will be on his way as soon as possible on a quiet desert highway near Los Alamos.
He won’t be counting out my babysitting wages from the secretary cabinet in the front room.
He won’t be returning filled brown bags of “leftovers” to the irresponsible dog walkers from the next block.
He won’t be telling me my split as I climb out of the swimming pool.
He won’t be building his kids forts in the backyard.
He won’t be mowing neat rows of grass in the ubiquitous maroon t-shirt.
He won’t be hiking any more trails or fishing any more streams or enjoying any more mountain top views.
Everyone grows up, moves away. That happened, but it’s not why things are different. He won’t be doing any more of these activities because our dear family friend suddenly died. But, he will be doing one thing like all of the people who share his status. He will appear in the cherished memories of friends and family who will miss him. We will continue to honor the good influence he had on our lives for years to come.
Here’s to anyone who said an anguished final goodbye this year. The loss hurts, but one day, all of the memories won’t.
Have you lost someone you cared about recently? How will you honor your loved one? Tell me about it.